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Aesthetics matter the most.
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In the end everything disappears. And we are left with romantic fatalism.
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We do not need cynicism and resentment. We need melancholy and tragedy.
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Misfitting is a symptom of the lack of choices. A lack of choices is usually the symptom of financial poverty. Poverty is a problem to be solved
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If you get the aesthetics wrong and you don't vibe with your environment, you're in big trouble.
In the good scenario you keep your external reward and prestige for a short while. But it is not possible to keep going for more than few years. You suffer massively for a negligible, pyrrhic win, desperately needing to exit the environment and arriving right back at the starting point.
In the bad scenario you face a burnout very quickly and lose more than you get.
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In both scenarios, you develop cynicism and resentment.
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This is not to advocate for retreating from an environment such as school or work, but to act as an ideal direction. The tolerance threshold is up for one to decide based on the basic financial resources and the specific circumstances.
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Intentionally misfitting into a toxic environment while having other choices and financial resources is a symptom of mental illness.
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External metrics are not a reliable narrator of one's identity.
The Internet is an unreliable external narrator, known for creating illusions.
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An aesthetic experience is valuable because it occupied a certain period of our finite lifetime. Thus an aesthetic experience is inherently unique and not replaceable with something that didn't happen, which is an illusion.
There is never an ideal fit.
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It is very easy to know by intuition if you are a misfit.
In school, you know the vibes in 3 days.
If you are a misfit for now, you are a misfit in the future. You suffer for the rest of your time there.
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To be a romantic, a person needs to be intelligent and cultured.
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To be a romantic, a person needs to be vulnerable and empathetic.
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To be vulnerable, we need beauty. To have empathy, we need culture. To appreciate beauty, we need to be vulnerable. To appreciate culture, we need empathy.
A romantic is the fusion of intellect and emotions.
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People become inevitably more conservative as they age. Conservatism is about trusting one's developed intuition through experiences, not about absolute openness.
Middle aged people can know if they vibe with a stranger within 5 seconds.
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Globalists do not vibe with the populists. That is also a form of conservatism.
Artists always create, travel, express strong emotions, or crave new experiences. And that is also a form of conservatism.
Hedonists always live a chaotic life. And that is also a form of conservatism.
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Anxiety is about unreliable external metrics.
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When anxiety happens, procrastination and avoidance comes to stop the execution of tasks. Thus relaxation is better.
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Addictions itself is neutral. Having conventionally terrible addictions does not make the term better or worse.
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If the addiction is fueled by bitter avoidance of a misfitting environment, the sin is in the vibe mismatch, not the addiction itself.
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If you are naturally addicted to poetry, vintage movies, wandering in nature, blogging, or aesthetic sports, there is nothing wrong with it.
If some people are addicted to gaming, shorts, drinking, or smoking, we do not criticize or attempt to suggest otherwise either.
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The addictions which a cultured person falls into reveals their true self. There is no difference between a true addiction and your passion.
There is no point in fighting addictions.
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The worst moral failure is a lack of passion and sincerity.
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Being sincere does not indicate whether a person is honest externally, vice versa.
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If you want something, you should actively pursue it.
If you want something, but do not pursue, it is an illusion of desire. If you pretend to do something but avoid going toward the right direction, it is an illusion of effort.
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Passiveness and ego hinders execution.
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The market is neutral. It may discriminate aganist your features but it does not discriminate against you.
Standing in the middle of a market and complaining about its rules is futile. You either adapt to it, find another market, or give up completely.
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If you hate something that is out of your direct personal life for a long period, you usually convert to liking it. Unless necessary, you ignore the things you actually dislike.
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Reaching a high level in a field requires focus, concentration, and peace, not panic, terror, or anxiety.
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Intentionally trying hard is a myth outside of necessary bureaucracy. Mastery is not the result of efforts, it is the result of passion.
If you are passionate, you are not tired of doing it for hours.
If you dislike something, usually you do not maintain the discomfort for long.